tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post6682079207047254573..comments2023-10-26T05:49:59.824-04:00Comments on Reflections of a Grady Doctor: Say my name.gradydoctorhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10639816377218206777noreply@blogger.comBlogger53125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-65974323353767674492015-01-07T13:15:13.450-05:002015-01-07T13:15:13.450-05:00Love this Dr. Manning! I'm writing a post on t...Love this Dr. Manning! I'm writing a post on this topic on my blog (www.curveballsandmedschool.com) and would like to include an excerpt from your post. Linking it all back to you of course. It's so important!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-20129987799122057092012-07-15T15:50:13.397-04:002012-07-15T15:50:13.397-04:00Dr. Manning, this post reminds me -- I was in a we...Dr. Manning, this post reminds me -- I was in a wedding gown store in Roswell a few weeks ago, and there, in the dressing room, was a framed thank-you note that you had written to the store. We have never met but I love your blog and it made me smile to see the note -- such a kind gesture!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-88928934308535133882012-07-14T14:28:31.081-04:002012-07-14T14:28:31.081-04:00In Swiss-German it's "Uuh-lees" :)In Swiss-German it's "Uuh-lees" :)Alishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06480456972006213759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-90539673487816331992012-07-12T13:18:38.722-04:002012-07-12T13:18:38.722-04:00Oh, and my name is Bridgette. It kills me when fol...Oh, and my name is Bridgette. It kills me when folks write Bridget instead. It feels so incomplete.<br /><br />- BridgetteAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-2777411530750467962012-07-12T13:18:05.178-04:002012-07-12T13:18:05.178-04:00This reminds me of a situation at our church. I wo...This reminds me of a situation at our church. I work a lot with the small kids. There is a Kenyan lady who had a baby at the same time I had my youngest. Everyone called her baby Katherine and I did too. One day, we were making a list of the kids for some reason and I asked her to spell her daughter's name. She spelled K-A-T-H-L-E-E-N. I told her I had no idea her daughter's name was Kathleen and asked why she had allowed her daughter's name to be spoken incorrectly for so long. She said she knew her accent could be difficult and she didn't want to correct anyone. I then corrected everyone that I knew who said it wrong. She was very grateful.<br /><br />- BridgetteAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-37879018965173870532012-07-11T10:36:06.855-04:002012-07-11T10:36:06.855-04:00You know it ;-)You know it ;-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-58278416876958107052012-07-11T09:33:50.177-04:002012-07-11T09:33:50.177-04:00Got it, Kimberly. I swear I will never slip and c...Got it, Kimberly. I swear I will never slip and call you Lisa or even Kim again. Dr. Kimberly Manning is rooted in the brain, now. <br /><br />Me, I kept my birth surname. As a child, I heard a woman say that all that she is she owes to her parents and so whatever she accomplished in life, she wanted them to get the name credit. It struck my imagination the way Team Manning did yours. So I kept my name, which when I got married had already appeared on magazine articles. But then, when my kids started school, i hyphenated my name with my husband's birth surname, except I didn't actually use the hyphen, just wrote all three names as if my birth name was my middle name, because I wanted every one in my kids orbit to know our little unit was a team, too. <br /><br />But then I wrote a racy novel and used my birth name because I didn't want the PTA moms and teachers to immediately associate that book with my kids. I have the best of all worlds, and often feel as if I have three personas, because now I use my birth name, my married name and my hyphenated name at will, depending on where I am and the mood I'm in. It's pretty cool. And on my blog I use my middle names, which are the same as my parents' middle names, so that's persona number 4. all of them, me. <br /><br />So I get it. Names are a personal choice. Respect the choice which means , respect the person. Great post. xo37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-77751658925722640452012-07-10T23:34:33.074-04:002012-07-10T23:34:33.074-04:00Awwww MAN!! I'm TOTALLY calling you Mr. Butter...Awwww MAN!! I'm TOTALLY calling you Mr. Butterfinger in the carpool lane for good!!(Seeing as you don't mind it at all. . .I'm just sayin'!)gradydoctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10639816377218206777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-39198640096413323342012-07-10T23:33:09.945-04:002012-07-10T23:33:09.945-04:00:) I bet your name gets "Schindler" spel...:) I bet your name gets "Schindler" spellings a lot, no?gradydoctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10639816377218206777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-70200957467552286642012-07-10T22:28:09.935-04:002012-07-10T22:28:09.935-04:00I like to get names right too. Working at the sch...I like to get names right too. Working at the school where I do we get a lot of international families, and I can only imagine how it gets tiring to hearing your name butchered repeatedly. <br /><br />9.5 times out of 10 they are completely fine with it, but I think it does make a difference to make a effort to get the name right. RIGHT, not close enough.<br /><br />The students call me Mr. B, but my last name isn't difficult at all. It's just kind of how I'm known. It actually started more than 15 years ago in Athens when a Russian student at the school where I was working couldn't pronounce my last name and he started calling me "Mr. Butterfinger", which, I didn't mind at all, but I told him to just shorten it to Mr. B, and it's pretty much stuck.<br /><br />Getting people's names right is one of the small but HUGE things we can do to help make our world smaller and more intimate.<br /><br />Thanks, Dr. ManningYerLifeguardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08360602099391308855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-26871451921124917522012-07-10T22:14:17.189-04:002012-07-10T22:14:17.189-04:00This is so.damn.true. I make it a point to ask the...This is so.damn.true. I make it a point to ask the patient , if it is even a question of correct pronunciation, to tell me how to say their name ....how THEY would say it. Now of course, I am a bit informal in my approach -especially with the elders because something just doesn't sit right with me having people older than me refer to me as " Dr. So and So." <br /><br />So after I ask them how to not massacre their name( seriously-it's what I say)- I introduce myself as Dr. Shindler, but explain that if they feel so inclined-Maria is just fine with me. I've never been one caught up in a title, and it feels right for me to present myself that way.<br /><br />Maria, fellow MeharrianAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-46804623667936186422012-07-10T20:51:48.095-04:002012-07-10T20:51:48.095-04:00BossNurse -- I bet they really appreciate it. Than...BossNurse -- I bet they really appreciate it. Thanks for doing what you do and for taking the time to comment. Also thank you for the kind compliment. :)gradydoctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10639816377218206777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-84174940768820955032012-07-10T19:34:50.056-04:002012-07-10T19:34:50.056-04:00Dr. Manning, I love your blog! I work with a lot ...Dr. Manning, I love your blog! I work with a lot of nurses and CNAs from various countries in Africa (Benin, Cameroon, Nigeria, Ivory Coast, etc.). This was new for me...in Florida it was staff from Haiti, Trinidad, Jamaica, etc. I've been doing just what you described here in my new facility--asking how THEY pronounce their names, and learning how myself. It's been a great way to break the ice, and learn about each and every one of them.<br /><br />Thanks for the timely post!Lisa Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07951250862147784757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-46782471247604098262012-07-10T17:20:09.216-04:002012-07-10T17:20:09.216-04:00See?! That's why folks need to ask--for reals!...See?! That's why folks need to ask--for reals!!gradydoctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10639816377218206777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-88704088891887616012012-07-10T17:18:55.811-04:002012-07-10T17:18:55.811-04:00Wow Mary Alice! That's interesting that folks ...Wow Mary Alice! That's interesting that folks manage to mess that name up. It sounds so apple pie--wholesome and say-able. And high five on the kids talking like their grown thing. Uh uh, no ma'am.gradydoctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10639816377218206777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-53700616976499384102012-07-10T17:15:02.388-04:002012-07-10T17:15:02.388-04:00Switzerland!
*thump*
(Just fainted from exciteme...Switzerland!<br /><br />*thump*<br /><br />(Just fainted from excitement about my blog being so worldly.) Love the tap dance and even more love the box of names. That is such a dear thing to do, Alis. (How is that pronounced?)gradydoctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10639816377218206777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-40194540908064874592012-07-10T17:11:41.707-04:002012-07-10T17:11:41.707-04:00That's awesome. Thank you for reading and comm...That's awesome. Thank you for reading and commenting! :)gradydoctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10639816377218206777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-83307103527950712052012-07-10T17:10:24.007-04:002012-07-10T17:10:24.007-04:00Awwwwww!! Thanks for going and actually reading th...Awwwwww!! Thanks for going and actually reading that post! "Loose Interpretations" has always been one of my favorites.gradydoctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10639816377218206777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-53770965876026561162012-07-10T16:24:30.150-04:002012-07-10T16:24:30.150-04:00My first name is Kimberly too and I absolutely HAT...My first name is Kimberly too and I absolutely HATE it when someone asks me my name, then proceeds to call me Kim. And if you really want to see my blood boil and you don't know me like that, call me Kimmie. Awwww hells naw, LOL!!!Doc201Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03256674607622605620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-4537287529261044662012-07-10T16:15:03.263-04:002012-07-10T16:15:03.263-04:00My name is Mary Alice, not Mary,not Mary Ann or Ma...My name is Mary Alice, not Mary,not Mary Ann or Mary Ellen or Mary Ellis (that may be because of my pronounciation) nor whatever other suffix to Mary you want to add because NO ONE remembers Alice. And I am certainly not Mary or Mare. I too am always asking patients and the fellows at work to pronounce your name like your mother does...I found out one of our attendings with a Russian surname was being called by the wrong name all the time. Or people would give up and call him Dr Igor (his first name). I agree with your mom that you owe it to people as a sign of respect to learn their name. It really isn't hard. I work with a doctor whose entire name is Massimo Cristofanilli. You should see how that one is butchered. Be glad you have Kimberly Manning to deal with! And hats off for teaching your kids to address people with respect too. I think that is one of the lessons at Camp Papa.Mary Alicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04358080186261021703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-10997060640756130502012-07-10T13:50:38.529-04:002012-07-10T13:50:38.529-04:00...well, I'm reading your blog in Switzerland.......well, I'm reading your blog in Switzerland. And we have the same problems with names and their pronounciation. Much like you I let the people teach me their name and even like them to write it down on a small piece of paper. These I store in a box and from time to time I take them out and say the names aloud. Like some sort of practice. Best thing that ever happened to me was when I met Mr. Kotuwattegedera. To teach me his name he did a little tap-dance. And since I know that the translation into English means "summerhouse" I can recall his name with the right pronounciation whenever we meet.Alishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06480456972006213759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-49877613141537090492012-07-10T13:25:46.286-04:002012-07-10T13:25:46.286-04:00Grrrrrr! Sorry about all my typos above. It's ...Grrrrrr! Sorry about all my typos above. It's the iPhone's fault!!! And I wrote to instead of too....Major pet peeve! I've annoyed myself!<br /><br />As for the nicknames... You know I love every single one of them! Bring 'em on! <br /><br />Biz loves you!!!djdjd04https://www.blogger.com/profile/11505371470238707568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-22085502392195536212012-07-10T13:22:22.571-04:002012-07-10T13:22:22.571-04:00Phew! So glad that you started this out by saying...Phew! So glad that you started this out by saying that respect for all choices is important. I'm one of those people with a bizarre first name and an easy last name. When I got married to a man with a crazy last name, there was NO WAY that I was going to have back to back jacked up names so I kept my maiden name. My husband, bless him, did nothing but support me on it (including acknowledging that the two names together were a little much! :) ). So I appreciate the sensitivities all the way around.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-11643887622608632642012-07-10T13:02:38.662-04:002012-07-10T13:02:38.662-04:00I just read your Loose Interpretations post, three...I just read your Loose Interpretations post, three times through, and--Wow! Your portrayal of what that Chinese dialect-speaking patient must have felt, lying alone and vulnerable in her hospital bed was incredibly vivid and moving. The sense of invisibility, of not having a voice or being able to relate to others as a person is so terrifying. So I guess it's the doctors job to find a way to hear those patients--and if we have no shared language, well, that's what our imaginations are for. I love the idea of writing out a patient's story from her perspective, and I'm planning on copying it from you. Once again, thanks for inspiring me.Shoshnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-10676564018096356582012-07-10T12:58:02.303-04:002012-07-10T12:58:02.303-04:00Although, I'm not too particular when everyone...Although, I'm not too particular when everyone butchers my name. Around these parts, I'm known as "Madame Missus Sharmen" (or "Shee-min" to some kids who just can't get it). Anything but "LA BLANCHE" being yelled at me...Charmaynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16709439046220015820noreply@blogger.com