tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post5649229800241114431..comments2023-10-26T05:49:59.824-04:00Comments on Reflections of a Grady Doctor: Imposter? No, ma'am.gradydoctorhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10639816377218206777noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-12163480661748139312012-11-02T06:50:22.246-04:002012-11-02T06:50:22.246-04:00http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_langu...http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are.html I just caught this TED talk today and it hints at the "imposter" fear. Well worth a watch...Charmaynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16709439046220015820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-6076513754942293882012-06-17T21:17:37.893-04:002012-06-17T21:17:37.893-04:00Dr. Manning,
I CANNOT thank you enough for this po...Dr. Manning,<br />I CANNOT thank you enough for this post! I suffer from this DIS-ease daily and have forever. I am an English instructor at Bennett College and wonder how I got there...my very first job after grad school! Sheer luck, surely! I graduated from UNC-Greensboro with a 4.0 GPA...well, it took six years so,I should've, right? Then I repeated that 4.0 in graduate school at North Carolina A&T State University...but, my professors were so nice. They just really liked me, right? And on and on...But it is time to stop! So I join you in this war. My first battle is against ME. Thank you so much!!!<br />SN:A wonderful young doctor named Dr. Briana Buckner (my honorary "niece") introduced me to your blog via Facebook and I am not medically minded--although both my sisters are nurses--But I am so glad she did. I read it religiously, and I love it!<br /><br />Best,<br />S. CooperShelia Coopernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-53681095848849245682012-06-17T07:23:53.872-04:002012-06-17T07:23:53.872-04:00WOW! I am a pre-med student who happened to stumbl...WOW! I am a pre-med student who happened to stumble across your blog today and I feel like today was the day that I needed to hear what you had to say. Of all the things I have been going though recently - your writing has really hit a cord with me. Especially this post, as I am guilty of doing all of those things. I constantly tell myself "I am not good enough" or "I am not smart enough!" and that only leads me to second-guess myself if I am even smart enough to become a doctor. I recently quit a stable, decent-paying job in a field that I was not interested in, to become a full-time pre-med student. You can imagine how many people shook their heads at me and said "you're crazy!" So sometimes It's hard for me not to doubt myself. All I can do is just know who I am and stay true to myself.<br /><br />I definitely needed to hear this with all thats going on in my life. Perfect timing to stumble across this blog, especially this particular one. I enjoy your blog <3 and look forward to reading more.<br /><br /><br /><br />~Angie<br /><br />PS: I've signed;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-29269486786850504172012-06-10T23:14:00.291-04:002012-06-10T23:14:00.291-04:00Yes, yes and YES! Thanks for joining in my army. I...Yes, yes and YES! Thanks for joining in my army. I need as many soldiers on board as I can get.gradydoctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10639816377218206777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-49761210799970189652012-06-10T23:13:13.798-04:002012-06-10T23:13:13.798-04:00Crying is welcomed here. Ugly crying, too. Go righ...Crying is welcomed here. Ugly crying, too. Go right on ahead. Snot doesn't bother us one bit.gradydoctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10639816377218206777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-52100703333416549322012-06-10T23:12:17.367-04:002012-06-10T23:12:17.367-04:00Nope. Didn't arrogant at all. That's the l...Nope. Didn't arrogant at all. That's the little voice trying to make you hate on your wise words. :)gradydoctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10639816377218206777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-21159471602597025282012-06-10T23:11:41.465-04:002012-06-10T23:11:41.465-04:00Awww! Hey Dr. Odicie! Soooo wonderful to hear from...Awww! Hey Dr. Odicie! Soooo wonderful to hear from you. Yes, you know we all thought the WORLD of you when you were a resident and I am sure that things were no different in your practice. You will never get away from people thinking you're wonderful. Because you ARE. Hello?gradydoctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10639816377218206777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-42246388995658336662012-06-10T23:09:24.776-04:002012-06-10T23:09:24.776-04:00Glad to have you signed on, Poopdeck. I knew you&#...Glad to have you signed on, Poopdeck. I knew you'd pipe up and tell me about your experiences. I do think many underrepresented minorities are just as guilty of this as women tend to be. So yes, Dad, I do hear you. As I always do.gradydoctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10639816377218206777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-9939933221376763242012-06-10T22:52:09.994-04:002012-06-10T22:52:09.994-04:00Oh Jae. I'm sorry that I am just replying! Tha...Oh Jae. I'm sorry that I am just replying! Thank you for these lovely words and for sharing your testimony. Book length is fine with me -- but it may mean that you have a blog inside of you just waiting to get out! :)gradydoctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10639816377218206777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-25778804465782863372012-06-10T15:37:45.640-04:002012-06-10T15:37:45.640-04:00You're hitting the nail on the head this week ...You're hitting the nail on the head this week with this post. I've allowed self-doubt and feelings of inferiority to hold me back and I'm ready to say ENOUGH. Thanks for the pep talk, Coach!Charmaynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16709439046220015820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-66600515280554874932012-06-10T08:46:53.031-04:002012-06-10T08:46:53.031-04:00Thank you. I'm crying right now but only becau...Thank you. I'm crying right now but only because this is precisely what I needed to hear at this exact minute today. I'll be passing this on to a couple of friends who need it more than I do right now. Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-9109450397513006352012-06-10T06:21:33.676-04:002012-06-10T06:21:33.676-04:00I think my post above may have sounded arrogant an...I think my post above may have sounded arrogant and "know it all." Please know that I didn't mean it that way at all. I'm just thankful to be alive, loved, and able to love. I don't take any of those things for granted though. Thanks for a great article, Dr. M.<br /><br />Jae in Clayton, NCAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-58542293735495395972012-06-09T16:53:10.000-04:002012-06-09T16:53:10.000-04:00hi there! I cant tell you how much this spoke to m...hi there! I cant tell you how much this spoke to me today. This week, I am transitioning out of my job-and as I was getting all these accolades and praise, confess that I had many of these same thoughts. I remember thinking "whew, glad im leaving before they find out that Im not as good as they think I am". Kudos to you for putting this to paper (internet, blogspace?). <br /><br />Its been a while since Ive been to this blog, but im putting you in my daily queue!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10266924618379070930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-20506123736386270232012-06-09T10:00:08.516-04:002012-06-09T10:00:08.516-04:00From the Deck of the Poop
This 68 year old black ...From the Deck of the Poop<br /><br />This 68 year old black man has had this affliction for many years. I bamboozled my way through engineering school when I clearly didn't deserve it. I was given promotions not because I was smarter or more capable than my competitors but because I was better at BS than they were. When I reached that office on the top floor in the northwest corner of R7 and had a title on the door Director and General Manager of F-15 Programs, I sat and looked out of the window. I turned around to this huge mahogany desk a smiled and said to myself, "boy you really got them this time".<br />I too could write a book in this subject but , I'll just sign my name on the line.<br /><br /><br />PoopDeckTony Draperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10933409391437441492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-36573444257890639002012-06-09T05:11:10.939-04:002012-06-09T05:11:10.939-04:00Good morning Dr. M and all! I had to sleep on thi...Good morning Dr. M and all! I had to sleep on this one and then re-read it and think about it some more. <br /><br />You are right, of course, Dr. M. I see it constantly in the young ladies that I know best - my future daughters-in-law. I seem to continually tell them they ARE enough, just the way they are. Didn't make a perfect grade on that last exam? So what? Gained a few pounds over the winter? So? Believe if you were just a little more...*something*...you'd be better? Baloney! I see it in my female work friends, as well. And it's nonsense. <br /><br />It's nuts that so many young (and not so young) women still feel so inferior and less than. And I too remember occasionally feeling that way as a very young woman. But not often. No, not often at all.<br /><br />Why? I'm not sure. Maybe it's my age or maybe it's the fact that in my family, I was labeled the "smart" one. Maybe it's just that my older sister pretty much raised me from birth until I was 4 years old and thought I was the most wonderful, the most brilliant, the most beautiful, the most perfect little person that had ever been born. (And no, in spite of all that, I was never spoiled nor thought I was better than anyone else. My parents and brothers saw to that...LOL)<br /><br />Maybe it was because there was less emphasis (at least among the people I grew up with) on physical beauty or striving for perfection. Maybe it was all of those things and more. But for what ever reason, as I look back over my life, I can honestly say, I've rarely felt like I wasn't *enough*. <br /><br />Did I want to do and be better? Sure. Always. But just wanting to improve didn't (for me) equal not feeling as though I am already *enough* just as I am. And I am incredibly thankful that I do feel and think that way. <br /><br />Am I a doctor or some other type of highly respected professional? No. Am I the smartest person I know? No. Am I beautiful? No. Am I overweight with a few bad habits? Yes. Am I kind? Yes. Do I care deeply about others? Yes. Will I listen to you while you sort out your problems and challenges in life? Yes. Will I pray my non-denominational prayers for you? Yes, yes I will. And I am enough, just the way I am. <br /><br />I've raised three wonderful young men, mostly by myself on an Administrative Assistant's small salary. I've kept a roof over our heads and food on the table and the lights on. I've held onto the land that I grew up on and my parents left to me, when my brothers and sisters were selling theirs to the highest bidder. Why? So my sons will have the land we (their grandparents, their aunts and uncles, and me - their mother) worked our fingers to the bone on. The land that they and I grew up on and thrived. <br /><br />I've lived through losing one of those sons much, much too soon. I've lived through job loss, not knowing where the next mortgage payment was coming from, knowing that I couldn't count on my ex-husband to help support his children. I've lived with next to nothing and still felt like the richest woman in the world.<br /><br />I'm sorry this turned "book length" but I think it's important to remember that there are those of us that - for whatever reason - know that YES - WE ARE ENOUGH. Just the way we are. And those of us who do believe this way have a responsibility (I believe) to pass that along and encourage other young girls and women to believe the same about themselves. <br /><br />So sign me up Doctor M. I'll be right there by your side, in spirit at least, encouraging young girls, young women, to look into themselves and see what wonders are there. Because when they FINALLY "get" and SEE how wonderful they are - they will be amazed and it will change their lives.<br /><br />Much love to all of you wonderful women...you ARE ALL ENOUGH.<br /><br />Jae in ClaytonAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-59232798940909121442012-06-09T02:41:23.899-04:002012-06-09T02:41:23.899-04:00Amen. I really, truly needed to hear this today so...Amen. I really, truly needed to hear this today so THANK you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03497289912197443753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-54194185007555081092012-06-09T00:11:25.770-04:002012-06-09T00:11:25.770-04:00Uhhh----I'm not a doctor or any sort of profes...Uhhh----I'm not a doctor or any sort of professional, and I actually feel like an imposter every now and then as a mother or a "great" mother. You know. <br /><br />Thanks for the post. I'm signing the dotted line.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03313726816776097840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-80288663040850880792012-06-08T23:49:24.472-04:002012-06-08T23:49:24.472-04:00Agree wholeheartedly.
Signed,
Maria, fellow Meha...Agree wholeheartedly.<br /><br />Signed,<br /><br />Maria, fellow MeharrianAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-57427696893882307302012-06-08T20:15:22.611-04:002012-06-08T20:15:22.611-04:00Uh... So I've heard of this my whole career fr...Uh... So I've heard of this my whole career from medical school on but always thought my "reasons" were real. So here I am in my mid-forties and finally saying wow maybe your right. Maybe it is right that I am here - not a mistake and not just luck. Wow, thanks for the thoughts and suddenly I have a lot of introspection to do. For better or worse and with trepidation, I sign on.<br />EthelAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-34929643086591194502012-06-08T19:03:49.005-04:002012-06-08T19:03:49.005-04:00OMG, totally yes!! That article hits the nail dire...OMG, totally yes!! That article hits the nail directly on the head.Thanks!gradydoctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10639816377218206777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-74015445818987411352012-06-08T18:59:07.892-04:002012-06-08T18:59:07.892-04:00Et tu, Brute? No WAY!!!Et tu, Brute? No WAY!!!gradydoctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10639816377218206777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-65864340366674422092012-06-08T18:58:04.362-04:002012-06-08T18:58:04.362-04:00I . . .know!!! See? Now you realize that it's...I . . .know!!! See? Now you realize that it's not just you. It's SO not!gradydoctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10639816377218206777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-10989369883609459942012-06-08T18:57:13.545-04:002012-06-08T18:57:13.545-04:00You know what's up, Ajax!You know what's up, Ajax!gradydoctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10639816377218206777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-13511890371795398632012-06-08T18:56:48.259-04:002012-06-08T18:56:48.259-04:00Yay Kelsey! My first signature!Yay Kelsey! My first signature!gradydoctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10639816377218206777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-83751549231138765222012-06-08T18:52:02.016-04:002012-06-08T18:52:02.016-04:00Funny that I found this the same time I read your ...Funny that I found this the same time I read your blog today: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-science-success/201101/the-trouble-bright-girlsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com