tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post2337893178605376749..comments2023-10-26T05:49:59.824-04:00Comments on Reflections of a Grady Doctor: Music Lyrics Monday: I like the sunrise.gradydoctorhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10639816377218206777noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-65409046075637666382012-11-26T21:48:49.608-05:002012-11-26T21:48:49.608-05:00You're doing well-even in the moments that may...You're doing well-even in the moments that may not feel like it. Just wanted to say that.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />Maria, fellow MeharrianAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-76640343252747023102012-11-26T19:34:12.500-05:002012-11-26T19:34:12.500-05:00Kimberly, what an awesome sister you are! Kimberl...Kimberly, what an awesome sister you are! Kimberly Kimberlynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-66132492008876900382012-11-26T13:20:31.163-05:002012-11-26T13:20:31.163-05:00Definitely struggling with tense... and, like you,...Definitely struggling with tense... and, like you, I pick up the phone to call her... When I heard Larry Hagman died I picked up the phone to call her, because we loved watching Dallas... Yesterday I was watching this crazy show on MTV & grabbed the phone to call her & ask if she ever watched that show... instead, I sat there on the couch and talked to her. Sounds crazy, but it was helpful for me at that time. I cry every day... usually a few times... eventually, a day will come where I don't cry. Until then, I am fully honoring my feelings & letting it out when I need to...<br />I love you, Sissy.<br />~Bizdjdjd04https://www.blogger.com/profile/11505371470238707568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-50036984804334900332012-11-26T13:02:02.080-05:002012-11-26T13:02:02.080-05:00Thanks, Anush.I love that 23 parts Mommy, 23 parts...Thanks, Anush.I love that 23 parts Mommy, 23 parts Daddy, 46 parts each other. :)<br /><br />My approach has been to just let myself feel how I feel. Some days that's light. Some days that heavy. I know it's okay. I am in a good place and am fully aware--eyes wide open. <br /><br />I am taking care of my mom and dad and sibs and kids and nieces and nephews. But know this--I am always going to take care of me. I am and I promise not to forget me in this. <br /><br />Thanks so much for being you.<br /><br />Kimberlygradydoctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10639816377218206777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-88230621981777846952012-11-26T11:10:15.754-05:002012-11-26T11:10:15.754-05:00There may also come dreams - vivid, real, colorful...There may also come dreams - vivid, real, colorful dreams, in which you may see Deanna, hear her, touch her, and in the first moments of wakefulness after those dreams, you may feel that life is as it should be... then that feeling of being punched in the chest may take your breath away and bring tears. But it will be ok... because some day, you will drive by the exit or you will wake up from one of those dreams and there will be no tears, no feeling of having the breath punched out of you, there will be joy and appreciation, because someone you love has loved you so much, that she continues to love you through your dreams and memories.<br /><br />This is something I have been telling my kids since before they could understand what it meant: "You are 23 parts like mommy and 23 parts like daddy, but you are all 46 parts like each other." <br /><br />You will always carry Deanna within you, and your sons will continue to carry parts of her within them, and their children will carry parts of her too. She will always be in the present tense, even after you get more comfortable speaking of her physical presence in the past tense. And that part, the being able to speak about her out loud without boulders crashing into your soul... that will come with time. <br /><br />In the meantime, I realize life marches on, there are expectations placed upon you every day, responsibilities to be shouldered, appearances to be made and maintained, other people's grief to be consoled. Please be kind to yourself, give yourself the space and the right to cry, to scream, to be mad, to be peaceful, to be with yourself and take care of just yourself every now and then.<br /><br />HugsWhite Coat Dreamerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02805599382000688596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-60273763676386038222012-11-26T09:05:02.967-05:002012-11-26T09:05:02.967-05:00I will be. I promise. Thanks, Sister Moon.I will be. I promise. Thanks, Sister Moon.gradydoctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10639816377218206777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-7241772208376742772012-11-26T08:35:48.791-05:002012-11-26T08:35:48.791-05:00Acceptance is a process. Be patient with yourself....Acceptance is a process. Be patient with yourself. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.com