tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post1922601155222009404..comments2023-10-26T05:49:59.824-04:00Comments on Reflections of a Grady Doctor: The Monster in Me.gradydoctorhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10639816377218206777noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-12247637737705631612015-02-12T09:12:00.844-05:002015-02-12T09:12:00.844-05:00You basically said everything that I feel and thin...You basically said everything that I feel and think about parenting and my children....the homework, the rushing, the meals (or lack of the traditional meal). You are not alone. The key is being aware, and making sure we take the time to do those things that are important to us when we can. Hopefully they'll remember the good in it all.Moniquehttp://lovingcaringliving.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-82581625544863951782015-02-11T20:22:36.385-05:002015-02-11T20:22:36.385-05:00As an extreme parent, even the tens of thousands o...As an extreme parent, even the tens of thousands of seizures that I've witnessed in my daughter could sometimes rival the anguish of homework with my sons when they were younger. Honestly, Kimberley, it nearly killed me.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03313726816776097840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-69239504937824865272015-02-11T13:31:21.699-05:002015-02-11T13:31:21.699-05:00Soror, bless you for sharing this! It's comfor...Soror, bless you for sharing this! It's comforting for me to know that I'm not alone! I often worry about some of the same things. Prayerfully, your kids and mine will remember the good times! Parenting is definitely the hardest job I've ever had. Hopefully, we're doing it the right way. <br /><br />If it helps to know, you're not alone!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04964442964740234084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-84714599694320355042015-02-11T13:20:43.001-05:002015-02-11T13:20:43.001-05:00We are all so perfectly flawed and I am thankful t...We are all so perfectly flawed and I am thankful that you testify to the monster that each of us holds inside. I am also on the hating homework train. I will write my kids excuses, when we want to do something fun or if we have back-to-back activities. No one is losing sleep over homework in this house and the kids are all right. Your kids, pretty much all kids, are resilient to the peeking monster that they see in us because there is so much good that they see most of the time. Love ya Doc.Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06744125557101852519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-72656963512624822782015-02-11T11:50:37.157-05:002015-02-11T11:50:37.157-05:00Oh honey I have felt that way many, many times. B...Oh honey I have felt that way many, many times. But with children who are not all over 30, I can tell you that the very things I worried about were the things they didn't even remember about their childhood! Be easy on yourself. They will remember that you loved them fiercely.Mary Alicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04358080186261021703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-82043088469294807872015-02-11T11:40:55.540-05:002015-02-11T11:40:55.540-05:00Can I get an amen? I don't have much profundit...Can I get an amen? I don't have much profundity to add, just wanted to add a note of appreciation for writing this. Social media is what we do (mostly) when we're feeling happy, content, celebratory. It's usually *not* what we do when we've gotten frustrated over homework and recalcitrant children to the extent where we get sarcastic or yell. I like how you didn't cut yourself a lot of slack, but I think it's noteworthy that you're a *doctor* for gosh sakes. You've got to draw on intellectual, physical, spiritual, emotional reserves all day and then try to be the best Mom you can be after work. I know you said you're fine and this isn't a cry for help post. :) But here's a fist bump of solidarity from one Mom to another. :::fist bump:::Laura (Bookworm)http://bookworm.typepad.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3245783834297902042.post-49082034098330508142015-02-11T09:46:08.210-05:002015-02-11T09:46:08.210-05:00When you think about having kids, no one tells you...When you think about having kids, no one tells you about HOMEWORK. No one tells you it will run you lives for 10 months of the year and even on holidays if they get holiday work. Lord, I hated holiday homework. Homework made me want to stab my eyeballs out, and honestly, it is the part of parenting I think I managed least well, and that I retain the most guilt about, at least with regard to my son, who was not really wired to sit for hours of homework after a full day. of school and activities. But for his involvement in sports, he might have been diagnosed ADD, but sports helped him to run off a lot of that excess energy. Still, it was nightly torture, getting through homework, and if I had it to do all over again, I think I'd do the same things, but I'd relax a lot more while doing them. I was so anxious that his inability to focus on and get through hw on his own until say, tenth grade, meant he wouldn't be able to manage as an adult. Because that's what we worry about, that they'll be able to take care of themselves. And you know what? They absolutely will. And they will have a fierce work ethic because that's what they observe in you and their dad. I promise you. As for your mom yelling at you over hw, well, i bet she never did. You were like me and my daughter, I think--just came home and got it done and even took some pride in it. Not being sexist here, but boys are often different that way. I think it's harder for some of them to sit still and focus in the way hw demands, at least until they have a few more birthdays. So just do what you do. Help them. But put any worry around it on the shelf. They are learning more than you can imagine from your help. But I know, homework is definitely a thing. You are so not alone.37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.com